also had the greatest birthday yesterday, I feel very loved. love to all my friends who have made an effort to see me this week before my trip!!! off to the airport now, ciao baby xoxo
Henri is so wonderful to me
really sick of seeing so much hate directed towards the police on here. look, we get it, you prefer sting’s solo work, i like it too alright? that doesnt mean ‘every little thing she does is magic’ and ‘can’t stand losing you’ arent awesome jams. ‘roxanne’ and ‘don’t stand so close to me’ are classic, don’t even get me started on ‘spirits in the material world’. just stop ok?
Ya’ll almost caught the fury of a lifetime holy shit.
"What does virginity mean to a queer person, who may never have vaginal intercourse in her/his/hir life? What of a lesbian who chooses to never engage in any sort of penetrative sex act her entire life, does she remain some sort of super, extra virgin? If a straight man receives a blowjob, he will in all likelihood still consider himself a virgin, but a gay man receiving a blowjob may have a more complicated understanding of what it means for his sex life. In many ways, our conception of “virginity” erases or invalidates queer sex."
Virginity: Ditch It (sexposgrrrl)
"Virginity" is a social construct.
Our sister blog, Spicy Gear, wrote about this in their article, Five Myths and Facts About Virginity!
I remember telling a guy that my first time was with a girl and he said “you’re still a virgin then?” Fuck the ‘virgin’ myth and fuck these boys who think their mythical penises are the necessity for sex
"Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem which he has to solve.
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.
To love somebody is not just a strong feeling—it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other….. A feeling comes and it may go.
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
Love isn’t something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling, it is a practice.
Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.
Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an ordination of character which determines the relatedness of the person to the whole world as a whole, not toward one object of love
If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.
Nationalism is our form of incest, is our idolatry, is our
insanity. ‘Patriotism’ is its cult… Just as love for one
individual which excludes the love for others is not love,
love for one’s country which is not part of one’s love
for humanity is not love, but idolatrous worship.
One cannot be deeply responsive to the world without being saddened very often.
Modern man has transformed himself into a commodity; he experiences his life energy as an investment with which he should make the highest profit, considering his position and the situation on the personality market. He is alienated from himself, from his fellow men and from nature. His main aim is profitable exchange of his skills, knowledge, and of himself, his “personality package” with others who are equally intent on a fair and profitable exchange. Life has no goal except the one to move, no principle except the one of fair exchange, no satisfaction except the one to consume
A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence - briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing - cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his “normal” contemporaries. Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity,his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves.
Man’s main task is to give birth to himself.
The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers"
Quotes from Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving
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